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“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.”
– Robert Holden
As you grow older, you’ll inevitably build an abundance of relationships and through those, experience the various kinds of love they offer. From friendships to relationships, romantic to familial love, you will always be tied up in some kind of connection with someone.
Meaningful relationships are very important to me, but throughout the years, I have realized that it’s really easy to become consumed by your relationships that you forget to put yourself and your needs first. There’s nothing wrong with being a selfless person, but what good can you do for other people if you can’t do well for yourself? I’m not too proud to admit that I am extremely guilty of neglecting my own well-being. But sometimes I just can’t help it – my emotions have a mind of their own.
When our emotions take over, they have the power to overflow into all things around you – that is, if you let them. They get the best of us, and sometimes even temporarily changes our outlook in our daily lives.
For example, when something unfavourable happens and we feel down, we can start to feel sluggish and downcast as the emotion consumes us. This is something I’ve always been guilty of, and as the feelings take over, it becomes an endless cycle of heartbreaks and headaches.
That being said, it is okay to take the time you need to become okay with whatever situation you’re going through. It is okay to spend a couple days, weeks, or even months trying to get over something – but once you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and come back even stronger. Transmute the feelings of pain, distress, or whatever you may be feeling to stimulate your desire to do better.
In the time it takes you to be okay with yourself, focus on who you are and where you’re going, not what was or what could’ve been. Find yourself first.
you must want to spend the rest of your life with yourself first - Rupi Kaur, milk and honey
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